10 Tips to Help Create Peace At Home or in the Classroom
1.) Mentor your child by staying calm when chaos erupts. Redirect your child to another activity by getting his/her attention through a question or statement, such as “Wait, I have a great idea” or “Everyone stop, I have an important announcement.”
2.) Avoid negatives. Instead of, “If you are not quiet, you will have to sit out.” You can say, “Please use your quiet voice.”
3.) Realize that you are your child’s hero/greatest role model and what you say and do has a lot of influence on the happiness and success of your child.
4.) Remember to walk across the classroom/home to speak to a child or a group of children instead of yelling across the room.
5.) Prepare activities/work for children to do at home to help redirect them when unwanted behaviours arise.
6.) Observe your child on a daily basis for 5-10 minutes. Note your children’s actions, behaviours and social interactions.
7.) Take responsibility for mistakes or misunderstandings with your child and apologize.
8.) Support your child do your best not to label him/her. Avoid saying things like, “Sally is a mean girl.” or “John is a lazy boy.” Children are far more complex and need support and guidance, not negative judgments.
9.) Recognize the great responsibility that we all have to educate children in order for them to reach their full potential, emotionally, socially and academically.
10.) Teach your child manners. Montessori has an excellent curriculum for Grace and Courtesy lessons. I believe that the implementation of daily presentations on Grace and Courtesy and Peace Education in the formative years of education (from the age of 2.5-6 years) will greatly reduce the incidents of bullying.
Advice from Parents Magazine by Diane Debrovner: